No matter how wild the sex is, it will generally turn out badly, often very badly. The relationship, whether you want one or not, is doomed. If you need a crazy person to turn you on, seek therapy.
The corollary: Apologize when you have wronged someone. If you have trouble changing your mind it is evidence of a deeper problem in your thinking and indicates a need for professional help. Watch for this deficit in others, and for people who see things in black and white.